Tips For Toasting

Toasting Tips

There’s nothing better than a great toast,and nothing worse than a torturous or inappropriate one. Here are some helpful hints to handle the speeches whether you’re a groom or best man.

The Right Time

The best man’s moment is obvious even predestined, but a groom often wants to give a shout out to those who have made this day possible or to share a sweet (and short) story about the love of his life. (How you met or the moment you first knew you loved her is always a good and safe one.) The best times for such a speech are either when the rehearsal dinner is winding down if you want it to be a little more intimate or emotional moment, or to conclude the reception speeches.

What to Say (and not to say)

Always thank the groom and bride’s parents.

Thank the guests as they make the day what it truly is.

Look for a particular anecdote that quickly emphasizes a point you’re trying to make.

For the best man:

A moment when the groom’s personality truly shined.

Funny is always good, but dirty or too risqué always falls flat.

Inside jokes in front of hundreds of family and friends are pointless too.

Speaking Tips

Think back to other times when you gave a speech. How nervous were you, and what calmed you down? Did you get on a roll using cues or was it better when you were speaking off the cuff? Let these past speaking engagements act as your roadmap, your past being your guide as to how much time, thought, and effort you need to put into preparing for the speech. Beyond that, here are some tips:

Think of what you want to say at least a day or two before the wedding.

Your subject is something (someone) dear to your heart. Let that guide you.

Avoid memorizing or typing out your speech. Instead, use note cards and practice your speech a few times to find your rhythm.

Perhaps the most important thing about a toast is its brevity. Keep it to 2-3 minutes max. Get to the heart of the matter quickly, and get out.