The Grooms Duties

Groom’s Duties:

Get your side of the guest list together.

Pick your groomsmen and best man (and don’t forget to tell him/them what you expect him/them to do).

Help build a budget. This means holding discussion with the brides family to ascertain what they can afford to spend on the Wedding.

Pick your wedding bands together.

Plan what you and your groomsmen will wear...often your bride to be will want a significant say in this decision.

Help select parent gifts.

Buy a gift for your bride.

Prepare a toast for the rehearsal dinner or reception. (See our toasting tips.)

That’s the barebones list. However; to help prevent your bride from having a nervous breakdown (and hating you for not helping more), consider your strengths and where you think you could help the most and volunteer to take charge of one or more of the major planning components:

Other Areas Where You Can Help Out:

Honeymoon Travel
Photography
Music
Budgeting
Transportation
Travel details for out of town guests

Choosing Your Groomsmen

Ever played pick-up football with your best friends? Remember how hard it was to pick some and not others for your team? Welcome to picking your groomsmen, only here, you’re not judging them on their athletic prowess, and you are limited in how many of your friends can be on the team.

Instead of starting with a concrete number it’s a better idea to make the quick and dirty list first. Chances are real good that should be your final list. Unfortunately, you have to then match up the number of bridesmaids on the other side of the aisle with your groomsmen...it starts getting complicated.

Guidelines for choosing your groomsmen:

Unless you’ve got an obvious issue with them that would turn your party into a war, always include your brothers and hers as well. (Unless there are a large number of brothers.)

Parties lose their significance above eight. Try to stick to this number and urge your bride to do the same.

Apply the all-or-none rule for friends that run in the same circles so you don’t have to play favorites.

If you’re having an especially hard time, consider sticking just to a best man.

There is no rule that says the bride and groom must have an equal number of attendants, but it is preferrable that they do for the pagentry of it all.